Sunday, May 15, 2011

Sex questions


Recently I have been given reason to question my beliefs on sex.  The basics is simple, sex is a way of interacting with fellow humans that happen to fall within the close circle of friends.  However how close does it really need to be?  What is the true necessity of sex?



The necessity of sex in my opinion is simple the need to be close to another human being.  It in no way is linked to love directly.  Sure, if you are committed to a romantic relationship, you should be able to connect with them on a sexual basis, but there is also possibility of a sexual attraction between two people and there be no basis of any other type of relationship.  This connection does not make the best combination for a family structure.

Sexual connections are not equal to love, if more people would realize this the divorce rate would drop, this would be comparable to best friends don’t make for good couplings.  Both can work in some circumstances, but usually there is more to it than just the one connection.

That part is pretty simple and straight forward.  The complicated part comes when the questions; who can you have sex with and what is cheating?

To me cheating is a term that needs to be determined by both parties in a committed relationship.  For me and my wife it is simply having another and deceiving or hiding the relationship from the other.  If we are honest and open with each other about the affair it’s not cheating.  This is the part that gets touchy; who can one have sex with?

The Answer in my opinion is anyone that one chooses.  I do mean anyone, the exceptions are short, be responsible and the person should be of a knowledgeable age past puberty.  To me this correlates to about 15   years old, however due to the law I do stay within legal age of consent, this is reality, but by belief it would ideally be 15 responsibility falls to insure that no offspring be produced until wanted and at reasonable time.

By my belief anyone over 14 years are capable of engaging in sex.  This should be done by two consensual people whom are responsible enough to ensure no children are produced until they are ready for children, nor should it hamper the life experiences and growth of the people involved.  Cheating is only possible by being dishonest towards yourself and your significant other, and sexual attraction does not equal love and in some cases can be totally separate from each other and sexual attraction is controlled more by lust not love.