the ends justify the means

Today’s prompt was when do the ends justify the means?   That is a question that is a bit hard to answer, because I am one who decides things by actions and consequences.  They are similar but not the same.  Although can say that the ends justifies the means as long a person is willing to accept the consequences.

A good example of this is if someone angers another, if the other is willing to accept the consequence of being charged with assault then beating the crap out of the one that angered them is justified by the willingness to accept the consequences of using that means to shut the other person up.  However, my freedom means a lot to me so any action that would get me in trouble with the law isn’t an option.

If one doesn’t care about a person, to use them to get what they want is justifiable cause if the person lets them they decided to allow it. Neither party is harmed by it.  Chances are if the person doesn’t like the idea of being used for the others gain than that person probably won’t associate with the other and both will be no worse for wear.

When I do things especially with other people I weigh the actions against the possible consequences.  This leaves it so that in everything I do the ends always justifies the means because I won’t take the option if I am not willing to accept the consequences. 

What Is A Slave?

The prompt today was a little silly for me so today I am going to write about something that is on my mind instead.

What is a slave?   I am into the BDSM lifestyle, and am a dominant.  Personally I would like the gift of a slave.  Yet there are many that a slave is someone dumb enough to want to be told everything they are to do and let the person they choose to do whatever they want with.  It isn’t as simple as that.  There are people who need a structured life and cannot structure it for themselves.  On their own they tend to set up a life set by books, other people or just necessity. 

Their desires are to have a significant person in their life that does this for them.  A system that is much more caring and flexible than any that they can create.  Along with this, they tend to be a follower.  They will go along with reasonable instruction or join in what others are doing but seldom initiate anything on their own.

Such a person is submissive and does not suggest they are a slave.  Slaves maybe submissive but they are also so much more.  One defining fact is that they can totally give full control of themselves and who they are over to a significant person whom they trust.  Other traits are find comfort in bonds, being told what to do and want to be told how they are to act, along with an almost selfless desire to please their significant other.  They are accepting of instruction and are not afraid of pain. 

This is only a quick rundown of a slave, and there is more I am attempting to get the full traits and qualities of a slave, although I know that to have a slave give herself to me is one of the greatest gifts and would be treated so and is what I desire to have.

Mrs. Right (Reply to todays post on Minutewriter)

How do you know when someone is right for you?

Right, wrong or indifferent…hmm…  Personally it isn’t a matter of right or wrong for a person, I don’t believe in the there is only one right person or only a handful of people that are right for you.  It basically comes down to who I choose to be with.  I figure if I get along with someone, I just hang on for the ride see where it takes me.

I pay attention to the path I am on whether it is with someone or alone, if I don’t like it or it is leading somewhere I don’t want to go I change it.  The right person to be with is the one I am getting along with right now and intimacy comes it comes and its right, if it doesn’t well don’t push the issue.

So, with that said, the right person is the one or ones that I trust, and hold values I can relate with for as long as it last.  Did I mention I am polyamourous, and don’t agree with societies ideals of marriage.

There are many people who come in and out of a person’s life,  to limit oneself to experience an intimate relationship with just one of the 1000s seems a bit naïve, and in the end leads to heartbreak till you find the one person that you can keep a relationship with for the rest of your life, and it still won’t be everything you want.