social conformity

This video has a lesson to teach and is one of the most important lessons a person can learn.  The wall represents society and the way it attempts to get every one to act the same and appear to be the same.  As differences are represented as flaws in the wall, they are kept in a uniform and consistant manner and society seems to be baffled by why anyone would want to be different.

Slave Submissive frustration

I have a desire that burns deep inside me to get a slave/submissive. I know that this type of lifestyle is outside of the norm and that the availability is not nearly as big as it would be for several other lifestyles. However I also didn't expect that it would be totally impossible, considering that there is an appeal to it to a good number of women. I quickly discovered that there are very few if any women interested in it as a lasting, on going commitment. The majority of the woman that I have saying they are interested in the lifestyle are interested in it only as a means to play or as an off and on thing but not as a commited long term relationship. Through the little I have done I have found I want it as a long term relationship as the benifits and satisfaction of it are far better. To make things worse the couple that I have found that are interested in such a relationship are 20 plus years younger than me one of which is younger than the eldest of my own children.

The age difference is not an issue to me but the fact that it could possibly turn out that I will not only be acting as a master but the possibility that I may also fill the role of parent as well. I enjoy being a parent and enjoy helping people but the possibility sounds kinda creepy that I would need to treat my slave like my children.

I have never been one to pay too close of attention to the boundries of love and all that comes with it or any other boundries for that matter. I only avoid that which endanger my freedom only becuase I enjoy the ability to act and do as I please. This seems to push it not becuase of age nor becuase of what may or may not come to be but the fact that being open as I am my children would be aware of the relationship as it is one that I won't hide it. The problem it brought to my door step though that I am going to need to either accept a much younger woman or that my desires are going to need to stay in my fantasy.

The problem with accepting that it can not be is the desire for a slave gets in the way of my interactions with my wife. Yes I am happily married but our sex life is affected by my desire for a slave and my wife and I tried to do the whole slave thing and it turned out badly as she can not be a slave in fact she is somewhat the oppisite so it don't work.

Tempted

Social ethics, society tries to control itself with idiotic rules of proper behaivor , ethics and morals. Parents teach t their children that temptation is bad and if they desire it, it probably is something that they shouldn't be contemplating.

Why is it that everyone is held to one standard. Society admits everyone is an individual so if we are all unique how can we all be held to one standard of right and wrong. I agree some things like murder and theft can be universally considered bad behavior, but why should things like age differences, beliefs, number of lovers, or how we dress be of any concern to society and how does it have the insight and knowledge of each individual to judge their actions as good, bad or inappropriate?
The answer is it doesn't, the facts show the whole purpose is to control and manipulate who people are. I refuse to be manipulated so when ya see a 43 year old man walking down the street with a 22 year old think to yourself before you judge him who is free you caught up in societies web or him following his heart?

The United States is the land of the free but the only way to do that is to shed societies concept of right and wrong and moral standards and discover them for yourself. I ave very few moral guides but do have a standard of how people should be dealt with. The biggist difference in the way I deal with right and wrong is the fact that no action is right or wrong, rather it is intent that is what determines wrongness of the action. Most people would agree that the killing an armed intruder in ones house to protect ones family is right, yet society condems murder of all kind.

One of the big life changing events in my life that brought about change in my views on right and wrong was when I was in the military. People will say that no matter the job function if a soldier kills an opposing opponent that it isn't murder, however they are wrong as the english definition of murder is the illegal taking of another persons life. Believe me in foriegn countries when an opposing force kills their soliers it is considered illegal. To the United States government even with the right of being innocent until proven guilty, if a person kills another in selfdefense they are charged with proving their innocence instead of the prosecution having to prove it was murder.

These are just a few examples of ways that if the intent is taken into consideration. Another is stealing. In several places in the United States it is hard to impossible for some families to get help they really need and when they resort to stealing to provide neccesities for their family they are coldly convicted and given little to no consideration for the reason. I have known people who would never steal that were pushed up against a wall like that and they went to jail just to get it so that their family could eat one meal.

These are major examples of judging on the face of action verses intent. Society is great at being petty though and is where most of lifes temptations lie. If someone decides to indulge in chocolate well t becomes their problem, but if someone decides to engage in sex before they are married most consider this a wrong choice and that the people are not supposed to engage in sex before marriage. This one is a major problem to my belief as I don't believe in marriage as it has become nothing more than a contract made with the government and has very little to do with the relationship.

Another of societies taboos is polyamoury(having more than one lover). If the government actually went through and erased all the laws that are behavior related that aren't related to violence, theft and traffic regulations. This may seem like it may be a little excessive but the fact is the government tries to regulate how one has sex, raises there kids, whom and the number of people that people form relationships, even to the point of pressuring an unfounded sense of modesty upon the people.

I agree there are things that are necessary, but why should anyone besides the ones engaging in sex care about who the partner/s are and what position that they have intercourse in or which holes they use for intercourse. The other major stickler is there are like four ages of adulthood in most states. At the age of 16 is legal age of concent in most states,(this doesn't only pertain to sex although it is what it most often refered to for), 18 is the age of becoming a legal adult but have to wait till they turn 21 to drink and gamble. Frankly I believe that with education the law about sex and children should pertain only to non-pubecent youth, (the legal statute that is the determination of pedophilia.) Doing that would set a age of concent without discrimination or the extra laws pertaining to concent laws. Also by doing that a single age should be set for becoming a legal adult affording the adult the right to vote, gamble, serve in the military, vote and drink along with all other rights afforded an adult.

As long as temptation doesn't harm anyone and everyone involved is concenting to it there is no right or wrong. Harm in this case means physical, mental and includes loss or damage of anothers personal property.

I do tend to follow my heart and only pay enough attention to the laws and societies rules to keep myself out of jail and to be able to associate with others and be able to be taken seriously by society, yes even as open minded as I am there are points of societies rules and laws I have to be aware of to maintain my freedom and happiness although it shouldn't need to be that way as I am not interested in causing harm nor changing other people, just out to live a good life and follow my heart to keep my life happy.