Half-full or Half-empty?

Half-empty or half full…..for me t is neither it is just half of whatever the container is.  Example a cup filled half way with a substance is a half of a cup.  Things just are, to be overly positive, or overly negative is only setting one up for disappointment.

Negative or being pessimistic wears on the self-esteem and confidence, and optimism leads to arrogance, disappointment and exaggeration, all qualities that turn good people into assholes.

A good outlook on life doesn’t need pessimism or optimism you accept that life has good of both good and bad and do your best to reach for the good than life can be fulfilled. 

the ends justify the means

Today’s prompt was when do the ends justify the means?   That is a question that is a bit hard to answer, because I am one who decides things by actions and consequences.  They are similar but not the same.  Although can say that the ends justifies the means as long a person is willing to accept the consequences.

A good example of this is if someone angers another, if the other is willing to accept the consequence of being charged with assault then beating the crap out of the one that angered them is justified by the willingness to accept the consequences of using that means to shut the other person up.  However, my freedom means a lot to me so any action that would get me in trouble with the law isn’t an option.

If one doesn’t care about a person, to use them to get what they want is justifiable cause if the person lets them they decided to allow it. Neither party is harmed by it.  Chances are if the person doesn’t like the idea of being used for the others gain than that person probably won’t associate with the other and both will be no worse for wear.

When I do things especially with other people I weigh the actions against the possible consequences.  This leaves it so that in everything I do the ends always justifies the means because I won’t take the option if I am not willing to accept the consequences. 

What Is A Slave?

The prompt today was a little silly for me so today I am going to write about something that is on my mind instead.

What is a slave?   I am into the BDSM lifestyle, and am a dominant.  Personally I would like the gift of a slave.  Yet there are many that a slave is someone dumb enough to want to be told everything they are to do and let the person they choose to do whatever they want with.  It isn’t as simple as that.  There are people who need a structured life and cannot structure it for themselves.  On their own they tend to set up a life set by books, other people or just necessity. 

Their desires are to have a significant person in their life that does this for them.  A system that is much more caring and flexible than any that they can create.  Along with this, they tend to be a follower.  They will go along with reasonable instruction or join in what others are doing but seldom initiate anything on their own.

Such a person is submissive and does not suggest they are a slave.  Slaves maybe submissive but they are also so much more.  One defining fact is that they can totally give full control of themselves and who they are over to a significant person whom they trust.  Other traits are find comfort in bonds, being told what to do and want to be told how they are to act, along with an almost selfless desire to please their significant other.  They are accepting of instruction and are not afraid of pain. 

This is only a quick rundown of a slave, and there is more I am attempting to get the full traits and qualities of a slave, although I know that to have a slave give herself to me is one of the greatest gifts and would be treated so and is what I desire to have.

Mrs. Right (Reply to todays post on Minutewriter)

How do you know when someone is right for you?

Right, wrong or indifferent…hmm…  Personally it isn’t a matter of right or wrong for a person, I don’t believe in the there is only one right person or only a handful of people that are right for you.  It basically comes down to who I choose to be with.  I figure if I get along with someone, I just hang on for the ride see where it takes me.

I pay attention to the path I am on whether it is with someone or alone, if I don’t like it or it is leading somewhere I don’t want to go I change it.  The right person to be with is the one I am getting along with right now and intimacy comes it comes and its right, if it doesn’t well don’t push the issue.

So, with that said, the right person is the one or ones that I trust, and hold values I can relate with for as long as it last.  Did I mention I am polyamourous, and don’t agree with societies ideals of marriage.

There are many people who come in and out of a person’s life,  to limit oneself to experience an intimate relationship with just one of the 1000s seems a bit naïve, and in the end leads to heartbreak till you find the one person that you can keep a relationship with for the rest of your life, and it still won’t be everything you want.

Unannounced, todays response to the minute writer.

Unannounced

If someone knocked on your door unannounced right now, who would you want it to be? Who would you not want it to be?

Unannounced visitors are always welcome around my house.  There is no one that I know that I would not like to show up at my door nor is there anyone in particular that I would hope would show up.  Although, if I was going to choose I would say that I would love to see publishers clearing house show up at my door.  That would definitely make my day.

The people I don’t want showing up at my door , that would be any number of those church goers that take it upon themselves to save the whole world whether it needs saved or not.  Always wonder how they manage to stay an organized religion, they keep losing Jesus, because the first question they usually ask is “Have you found Jesus?”

No one ever told me I was supposed to look, besides my life’s better without him.  That is for another blog though.  Those people would be my choices for who I would prefer to show up unannounced and who I wouldn’t want to show up.

Popularity minutewriter response

Popular:  Were you popular as a Kid?  Are you now?  Popularity is a funny thing, was I popular, well if being popular is everyone knowing who you are and not being able to say they don’t like you. If that’s the case yeah, I was popular, people have never disliked being with me and most people who have met me even remember who I am.

However, in my case it didn’t matter, one of my friends in high school was the captain of the football team; most of the girls in my class liked me.  Sounds like I was popular, but I would be able to point out that that would be wrong, yes I was friends with the football team, most of my class liked me, and I had seen more than half the girls in my class naked.  Then again I was the guy who it was fun to be friends with, even the girls treated me like their best friend, and that is all I ever really was to most of them.  I only seen two f the handful of girls I dated naked and even that didn’t go too far.

Most the time my friends were there because I was safe.  They convince their parents they was with me and their parents would be lenient because if they was with me it couldn’t be anything bad and then they would go off and do what they wanted too, sometimes I got to hang around others I was dropped off for.

In the end I was a popular alibi.  As for now, I am popular enough I guess, people I work with know me some like me, some dislike me but overall the popularity contest generally stops at adulthood in most of the worlds social circles, and I am not part of the few in which popularity matters.  Personally I don’t care to be in those circles either.  I am proud of who I am and will be myself always and as for what others think about me, I don’t give a damn, it doesn’t make a difference one way or the other.

Believe a minutewriter response

Writing Prompt: Believe


Write about a situation that made you think, "I can't believe I just did that."

That would be about half the things I have done in my life. In my younger years I did it even more, after all what sane person get bored of parachuting out of an airplane multiple times so decides to make it interesting on a dare and tosses the parachute out before jumping. Dumb, probably but it was a rush, obviously I survived. That one happened back when I first went in the army. After basic and AIT I entered into airborne training. To earn your wings and to advance you have to make so many jumps. Well all day Saturdays and Sundays Airplanes would take us up to get the practice.

One day while getting our jumps in I mentioned how boring it was getting. One of the guys said well why don't you toss your chute out and try to get it , put it on and open it before you splatter all over the ground. The Jumpmaster on that flight was one whom had become our friend and he bet me $500 that I wouldn't do it. I took the bet and did it, man what a rush.

As our batallion comander was chewing us out and taking corrective action I had finally stopped long enough to realize how stupid it was and stopped to think I can't believe I did it, but the following 30 days in the stockade was definitely worth it.

My history is littered with instances like that and it has made for an interesting life.

looking inward

Self Quest

I have been looking inward recently and have realized that I am probably one of the biggest nuts on the planet.  It isn’t just my beliefs but the philosophies I tend to follow and the code of honor that I tend to follow which reflects the nuttiness of my beliefs.

The code of honor, I will attend my responsibilities no matter what is going on, however there is very little of my responsibilities that tend to be directed at material things.  There is a certain reverence to life that I have and everyone will get a basic respect from me till they prove not worthy of it which there is very little actions that would bring about that to happen.  There is no age limit on the age of people to associate with.  In reality, I only watch that which can land me in jail.  Quite a little of what I believe is left to where it wouldn’t be perceived by observers where there is quite a few things that if it wouldn’t infringe on my freedom I would do. 

“…prison could seem like a home...   The only difference is

 In your home the locks are on the inside where you can lock them….

In prison the locks are on the outside to lock you in…”

I will not start a fight but I damn well will end one.  I bare no ill will to no one and will not harm anyone in any way, but given the right motivation I can coldly take the life of a person without batting an eye.  I hold a respect and caring for nature and believe in the laws of nature and hold the opinion that 90% of the laws man made are a waste of breath.  After all there are no actions that are truly bad and it is not what you do in life that determines whether you are a good person or not, but rather the reasons for those actions.

“It is not the manner of one’s death that determines their worth …

It is in the manner in which they lived that they will be judged.”

The biggest mistake people make in connection with religion and beliefs is closing their mind and believing that everyone is supposed to believe as they do.  Christians I have noticed are the ones most given grief about this however I have discovered even those who follow non-Christian faiths are just as guilty of it.  I believe that everyone is following the correct faith as long as they are being true to themselves not trying to be whom others would have them be.  I can accept a Christian, an atheist and most other faiths when the person can be open and honest.  Dishonesty is the quickest way to get shut out of my life.  Don’t confuse honesty with truthfulness I accept the fact that people are prone to exaggeration, quick choices that lead to changing of minds, and feeling there is cause for lying.  Like just about everyone else I don’t like lies and tend to avoid people who are in the habit of telling lies, but an occasional lie can be forgiven depending on the reason it was told.

“Honesty and honor are two of the greatest virtues….

I will never turn my back on someone attempting to uphold these virtues.”

In all my faith is in nature and her laws, there are few but if followed create a foundation for being a good person and for governing social interaction.  This belief is what indicates that the laws of man are nothing but a waste of breath and paper.  This does bring about what seems to be a contradiction in what I believe because I also have a strong belief in Justice.  It may not be based upon fairness as life is not fair but even nature supports a strong sense of justice.

So over all I am a bit nutty

The world is full of stupid people, and t would be nice if they would wizen up to at least not prove it to the world. I have been following a few blogs and several discussion boards and it makes things really frustrating when you run across someone who will refer to "the lifestyle". This always brings about the response of which lifestyle? They don't bring it up in a fashion where the reader is able to discern what lifestyle they are talking about. So it catches the reader for a minute that is left looking over the post or discussion trying to figure out which of the 1000s of lifestyles the person is talking about.

People should get a clue there is more than one lifestyle so if they are going to reference a lifestyle they should do it by name, not to mention be aware that some categories have more than one lifestyle within them. For example a pagan lifestyle, well this can be any one of a hundred lifestyles because of the vast umbrella pagan covers. It could mean a polyamorous lifestyle, or a vegan lifestyle, or even a vegetarian lifestyle. There is no one life style and to refer to the lifestyle effectively communicates nothing therefore the writer might as well of saved their time and not written the comment. As far as vague mentions of words they don’t add any context either so might as well be omitted.

On top of that recently have been reading some blogs and discussions where the writer decides to redefine a word to suit what they want to say. This defeats the purpose of communication, which one of the principles is using words that have accepted definitions that have been standardized so that it can be universally understood. When you try to redefine a word it is made useless because it no longer conveys the same thought to all readers.

 Anyone that cares to can relate and communicate with others if they use the appropriate words to say what they want to say instead of trying to morph different or similar words into meaning what they want it to say. This creates confusion and miscommunication.

Sex questions

Recently I have been given reason to question my beliefs on sex.  The basics is simple, sex is a way of interacting with fellow humans that happen to fall within the close circle of friends.  However how close does it really need to be?  What is the true necessity of sex?

The necessity of sex in my opinion is simple the need to be close to another human being.  It in no way is linked to love directly.  Sure, if you are committed to a romantic relationship, you should be able to connect with them on a sexual basis, but there is also possibility of a sexual attraction between two people and there be no basis of any other type of relationship.  This connection does not make the best combination for a family structure.

Sexual connections are not equal to love, if more people would realize this the divorce rate would drop, this would be comparable to best friends don’t make for good couplings.  Both can work in some circumstances, but usually there is more to it than just the one connection.

That part is pretty simple and straight forward.  The complicated part comes when the questions; who can you have sex with and what is cheating?

To me cheating is a term that needs to be determined by both parties in a committed relationship.  For me and my wife it is simply having another and deceiving or hiding the relationship from the other.  If we are honest and open with each other about the affair it’s not cheating.  This is the part that gets touchy; who can one have sex with?

The Answer in my opinion is anyone that one chooses.  I do mean anyone, the exceptions are short, be responsible and the person should be of a knowledgeable age past puberty.  To me this correlates to about 15   years old, however due to the law I do stay within legal age of consent, this is reality, but by belief it would ideally be 15 responsibility falls to insure that no offspring be produced until wanted and at reasonable time.

By my belief anyone over 14 years are capable of engaging in sex.  This should be done by two consensual people whom are responsible enough to ensure no children are produced until they are ready for children, nor should it hamper the life experiences and growth of the people involved.  Cheating is only possible by being dishonest towards yourself and your significant other, and sexual attraction does not equal love and in some cases can be totally separate from each other and sexual attraction is controlled more by lust not love.